Losing a baby is an experience that can leave a lasting impact on the lives of all those affected. Yet, even in 2023, the subject of baby loss and miscarriage is still often enveloped in silence. As a memorial jewellery brand that works with parents who have experienced this unimaginable pain, we believe it is time to break the silence and start talking about baby loss to allow those who are grieving a safe space to talk about their bereavement and find the appropriate support.
Baby loss can be challenging to bring up to those around you, especially if your close friends and family don’t know you are trying for a baby. If you are attempting to reach out to your support network, remember that your grief is valid and losing a baby at any stage can cause you to experience the five stages of grief.
We also believe it is important to recognise all parties affected by baby loss and acknowledge the less spoken-about forms of baby loss, including loss of the ability to carry a child, caused by various reasons, including premature menopause, or grief due to an adoption falling through.
Losing a baby can be a lonely and isolating experience for a considerable number of parents. And it is not uncommon to feel as thorough you are the only one going through this grief.
Sadly baby loss is more common than most people realise. According to the World Health Organisation, an estimated 2.6 million stillbirths occur worldwide yearly. Of course, knowing that other parents are going through the same heartbreak doesn’t make your loss feel lighter. However, it may help to reach out to local or online support groups where others can empathise with your loss and offer mutual support during this time.
Despite the prevalence of baby loss, many people hesitate to discuss it. This may be because you could fear no one will understand your grief. Although it is a difficult topic to bring up, you may wish to talk about your loss with family and friends. If you struggle to bring up the subject, some parents choose to wear a piece of memorial jewellery to help them open up the conversation with loved ones. But, of course, there is also the option to speak to bereavement professionals should you not feel ready to talk to your friends and family about your loss.
As a family member or close friend witnessing someone else go through a baby loss, you may fear saying the wrong thing or worry about upsetting the parents. However, without the opportunity to share their grief and process their feelings, parents may be unable to move forward and isolate themselves further from their support network. It’s not your job to put a pretty plaster over their wounds. However, offering a supportive ear allows them to talk about their grief and how it affects them.
In addition to talking about baby loss, we also believe parents deserve the right to receive the professional support and care they need. This may include counselling, therapy, or access to support groups.
If you would like to find specialised support after a baby loss but aren’t sure where to look, we recommend going to your GP, who can signpost you for counselling or an agency that can offer help.
The Sands website is also a valuable resource for information on their helpline team for more immediate and safe support. Alternatively, specialised bereavement support services from charities, such as the Lullaby Trust, help anyone affected by the sudden loss of a baby or young child.
It’s time we break the silence and start talking about baby loss. By doing so, we can create a culture of support and understanding for those affected and ensure that parents who have experienced baby loss receive the care and compassion they deserve. So let’s start the conversation today.